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Things I've heard recently begin with the words "I wish I were like..." Really? If you're constantly wishing to be something or someone you are not, you need to be more selfish. There is an assumption that no good can come from being selfish. There's a good side to it though. If you have no idea who you are, if you answer questions about yourself with "umm, I don't know," then you can probably do with some time to ponder all that is you.

I've seen visual train wrecks haunting the isles of Wal-Mart. Not the prettiest picture, but sometimes I can't help but smile. Here is a lady decked out in the most outrageous outfit...happy with herself and not giving a damn about what anyone else thought. I loved that! Her life is not about me, so why care what I think? On the other hand, I've seen people absolutely clueless on what makes them happy. They have no idea what they want out of life, a relationship, or a job. Hearing nothing but "I wish I were..." was worse than the momentary loss of sight from the Wal-Mart horror.

How are you supposed to know what makes you tick if you don't think about yourself? What works for me does so because I'm selfish. I've taken the time to find out my limits, my motivators, what sets off bad behaviors, and what encourages good behaviors. I take time to make sure what worked for me in the past, still holds true in the present. When you're selfish you can "be honest with yourself." In the gym, you'll know when you're truly being lazy or when you really need a rest day. When you eat, you will know how to set yourself up to avoid cheating. You're list of goals should come being selfish. You'll never know which rabbit to chase unless you are selfish with your own time and thoughts.

I know what eating healthy and being fit provide for me. It is a healthy foundation to achieve my goals. I have a billion hobbies and I wouldn't be able to do them if I lacked in this area. It gives me the ability to help others. I am strong and mobile enough to help my friends move and kick stupid people out of a house party. I'm strong enough to participate in martial arts classes that give me an added sense of protection. I'm a firm believer that a fit body encourages a fit mind. The list is long, but I know it.

Not the idea of "selfish" you had in mind?  Once you realize it can be used in a positive way, it doesn't seem so bad. Just don't get carried away with it. If you have no idea what you want out of fitness, health, or anything in life, it could pay to be more selfish with your time and thoughts. It's a never ending process, but you can't start if you don't know where to begin. Take a little time to be selfish and figure that out.
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